DIVORCE QUOTES and WORDS of ENCOURAGEMENT

"Divorce is open-heart surgery, emotionally. Some people are not willing to give it enough time, and their expectations for recovery are too fast. When you get up and go faster than you're supposed to and you push your healing cycle too quickly, you have to do it over again and you get a relapse." From Divorce Care..hope,help and healing during and after your divorce by Steve Grissom and Kathy Leonard

"Anytime you do not feel anger, blame, self-pity, bitterness or resentment, then you are experiencing recovery. If you think of your former spouse less often than you used to, this is a sign of recovery. If you are living in the present more than you are dwelling in the past, you are recovering. When you look back and see where you have been, that means you are in a position of recovery." From Divorce Care..hope,help and healing during and after your divorce by Steve Grissom and Kathy Leonard

"Recovery does not mean you will not feel pain again. Painful moments will occur unexpectedly for several years. Be aware that this will happen, and when those painful moments hit you, be prepared to deal with them by countering them with prayer, Scripture, positive memories, or reaffirming statements." From Divorce Care..hope,help and healing during and after your divorce by Steve Grissom and Kathy Leonard

Your depression is directly related to the losses you have experienced as a result of your divorce. There are two main types of losses: concrete and abstract. Concrete losses are measurable, such as the loss of income, a spouse, or your car. Abstract losses cannot be measured. These losses include the loss of self-esteem, dreams, or affection. Both types of losses are important and need to be grieved." From Divorce Care..hope,help and healing during and after your divorce by Steve Grissom and Kathy Leonard

"If you have thought of yourself solely as a wife or husband and you lose that, sometimes you don't even know who you are. You have to learn that you are more than just a relationship...and you must ultimately define yourself in Christ. He delights in you; He has created you in a good way; His gifts are in you." Dr. Linda Mintle From Divorce Care..hope,help and healing during and after your divorce by Steve Grissom and Kathy Leonard

"...You're feeling discarded, used, and betrayed. You need to know that although I wish I could say I understand the depth of your pain, I really don't. I can't since I've never experienced such abject rejection from the one I thought loved me more than anything in the world. But I know One who can understand. One who knows the sting and shame of rejection, the horror of injustice, and the shock of unfaithfulness. His name is Jesus. He endured all that and so much more. So I point you to Him and to His blessed cross. Only He can take the shattered remains of your life and lovingly begin to put back the pieces, tenderly holding each one with compassionate care and empathy." From Getting Through The Tough Stuff by Chuck Swindoll

"Perhaps for you it has been several years since your marriage ended in divorce. Yet the hurt lingers, especially in those times when you're most alone. Again, let me remind you: Jesus is there in those tough stretches of loneliness and shame that remain long after everyone else has moved on with their lives. Will you let Him comfort you today? I hope you will. Don't try to get through the tough stuff alone any longer, my friend. Trust Him completely, regardless of what you face. Refuse to give up. Let Him become your stability and strength. He waits for you to call on Him."From Getting Through The Tough Stuff by Chuck Swindoll